The most likelly reason she appologised to you is due to the chance she could loose her job if you reported that you where given a verbal warning, where you felt threatened and discomfort, the worst of it, it was outside of work, what kind of a boss tells there employee off outside of the work place.. It makes bad relations. A happy employee is a productive employee!
The money issue, claim it all back not just the last months the O/T your owed the lot! Do it quick tho