k, imagine you got -
girl A: 3/10 looks, 7/10 personality
vs.
girl B: 7/10 looks, 3/10 personality.
Its complicated and you can play with the numbers all day long but in simple terms there it is.
Recently I made a discovery called Girl C. Girl C is 10/10 personality, like shes my soul mate and stuff. But shes only average looking, like 6/10 except with huge boobs. Ive done the other extreme, like Girl D had 11/10 looks and banged like a porn star, but 0/10 personality. Call me shallow but theres gotta be a balance, right? like there should be a girl E out there, like 7/10 looks, 7/10 personality.
Should I dump girl C? I didnt think I was that shallow but I dunno...
depends on how well you know them....
it would be easy to fall for a minger if you already knew here really well etc....
but on the other side.... if youve just met her, the looks have to be there enough to keep you interested enough to get to know her....
and it doesnt matter if you think someone is a 3/10 for looks, because someone else will come along 5 min later and think theyre 10/10 etc. etc.
To be fair, you simply have to have a degree of attraction to someone for it to work. At the end of the day they can have the most endearing personality in the world to you, but if thats all you have to run with then its destined to stay as friends.
I mean women come out with that all the time dont they? "Dont want to ruin a great friendship" and all that.
You need to keep looking for girl E while playing around with more of the other girls in the meantime.
One other thing to consider. Any girl can develop a better personality, but you cant grow more attractive features, plastic fantastic aside.
Now wheres your both option?
Looks will attract you and are always good, but personality is the thing you have to live with.
TBH Girl C sounds pretty good, if she has a 10/10 personality then hopefully means you wont get bored in that way, and she wont piss you off after a while. 6/10 for looks isnt bad in the grand scheme of things. I think if a girl can look good without make-up then thats the benchmark, and if they have huge boobs (within reason) then thats awesome ;)
But Id pick personality over looks any day, especially if you have a lot of common interests and also if she has confidence I think that goes a long way.
EDIT: Reading the numbers, personality over looks within reason! I dont care if she has a great personality if she has a face like a smacked ass! Id sooner pick neither of the above and find someone better rather than settling for either, but gun to head would prob pick looks out of A / B.
Quote from: XEntityand if they have huge boobs (within reason) then thats awesome ;)
anything more than a handful is just a wast ;)
Quote from: Clockd 0NeAny girl can develop a better personality...
That aint always true. I boinked an ex-model who was a "I hate black people" nazi. She had small boobs though. Maybe thats the key.. big boobs.
Man, if I was you and I got caught by the missus making a topic like this my life wouldnt be worth living.
I was once going out with a girl who found me on the forum, no idea how she found me, she said she didnt look hard etc... but even googling my info it was hard to find myself...
anyway.... she pretty much freaked out :o
was a shame, I really liked her, but she lived too far away to make it work anyway :(
Depends what you score really doesnt it? :p
Equally, if the girl really is 10/10 soulmate stuff then its got to be worth giving it a go - looks wear off eventually anyway then all your left with is wrinkly personality :p
+ sometimes other things are better when youre a good match personality-wise rather them necessarily being Kate Mosss younger, prettier sister ;)
This thread is useless without pics
ps - can we have girl Ds phone number
Were biologicaly geared to be attracted to good looking people, becuase they traditionaly would have been big/strong/athletic/well-built people capable of surving & fending for themselves.
Also life expectancy was short, so poor personality didnt have a huge bearing and Men have traditionaly been in far more dominant positions in relationships than current society. So you could choose a great looking women, screw her sensless and f&ck the personality.
With moden living we have a big change in lifestyle and enviroment.
People live longer, Relationships are more equal, Strength and Fitness do-not autmatically lead to successfull living.
So our Biological makeup is working out of step with modern society.
When you meet a potential mate, you maybe attracted to their looks, but ask yourself could you live with their personality for 50years. (I know people change and adjust, but if there isnt a common ground or basic way of thinking about the word you will have difficulty.)
Quote from: dogbertWhen you meet a potential mate, you maybe attracted to their looks, but ask yourself could you live with their personality for 50years. (I know people change and adjust, but if there isnt a common ground or basic way of thinking about the word you will have difficulty.)
who stays married for 50years these days?
TBH after people have gotten married, it should be a 20year commitment or until the youngest kid reaches 16.
Then either renew their vows or go their seperate ways for a new younger mate & start again..
obviously this will lead to a lot of older hate filled women who are no good to society.. we can sell them to the japanese on
britishbrides.com
Looks, personality, boob size, its all irrelevant at the end of the day because you either click or you dont.
Its all about the pheromones.
Quote from: Clockd 0NeTo be fair, you simply have to have a degree of attraction to someone for it to work. At the end of the day they can have the most endearing personality in the world to you, but if thats all you have to run with then its destined to stay as friends.
I mean women come out with that all the time dont they? "Dont want to ruin a great friendship" and all that.
You need to keep looking for girl E while playing around with more of the other girls in the meantime.
One other thing to consider. Any girl can develop a better personality, but you cant grow more attractive features, plastic fantastic aside.
Now wheres your both option?
I would agree they had to attract you but that isnt the same thing as being a 10/10 beauty. The 0/10 personality can irritate the hell out of you within months and they are probably going to have low standards to go with this, so when you, via them, are loaded with STDs, and just want to kill yourself, you know you only have yourself to blame. I knew someone who was married to one of these, she was an airline hostess, irritated the hell out of me every time we met.
Beauty is only skin deep and unless you are willing to pay the fantastic plastic bills they are going to go sooner or later. Check you have enough money for the upkeep.
Women come out with the dont want to ruin a great friendship line when they dont fancy you. That has no impact on your looks, inevitably more women wont fancy you than will.
Personally, keep girl C, as with Prince Charles you will only regret going for girl D later. If you can have girl D on the side then its your choice, but wear a condom.
Quote from: knightyQuote from: XEntityand if they have huge boobs (within reason) then thats awesome ;)
anything more than a handful is just a wast ;)
I agree! A handful/mouthful is fine, anything more heads due south faster :disappointed:
Yeah the personality thing is to within reason, but if youre starting off with a neo-nazi youre better off looking elsewhere anyway.
a girl can be dog ugly & have a briliant personality, but Id never know because I wouldnt bother to find out.
They need to be both attractive & have a decent personality.. as well as being a whore in the bedroom & chef in the kitchen.
good job I love being single, or Id have a problem!
Its an age thing m8.
Whilst youre young youll go out of your way to bang the hotest thing going. Then, one day, youll realise that you "want more" and youll start to trade looks for personality.
Id guess the fact that youre asking the question means you might be getting to that age.
Why has no-one mentioned time scale here? Scales tip hugely depending if its a bit of a fling, something that may last a while or oh god we are getting married tomorrow :P
Personality beyond looks that you dont find repulsive.
I find obese people physically repulsive, doesnt matter if theyre the nicest people in the world. Slightly chubby I can deal with.
Dooms, I did to an extent and so did egg, although not directly ;)
Zpyder, its not only not finding someone repulsive, its finding them unattractive, that could be physical or mental. Plenty of people can and do handle physically unattractive people because they have bonded on other levels.
But isnt that what I said?
Personality is what counts, so long as they arent repulsive (read:unattractive, I know repulsive sounds a bit strong, but for me I either like people or want to run away)