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Nuff. I got:

1xheadache
1x lump missing from thumb (thx Dell!)
1x "omg I gotta renew my car insurance ...feck it, itll wait"
1x knackered ankle
1x "should I call her tomorrow or wait til friday so I can hit on her mate instead" dilemma.
2x Panadol "do not drink excessive tea or coffee" Extras and a cuppa tea.

Im gonna curl up in bed with Excession by Iain M. Banks.

i have the monday blues too. madrocker has gone to the pub without me because apparently we "spend too much time together and it would be healthy if we did things separately now and then". i want to cry.

Quote from: sdp2x Panadol "do not drink excessive tea or coffee" Extras and a cuppa tea.

Just look on the ingredients, paracetamol and caffeine. You might as well take generic paracetamol with a cup of coffee, cola, or your tea and save a packet on the price.

Quote from: Cornholioi have the monday blues too. madrocker has gone to the pub without me because apparently we "spend too much time together and it would be healthy if we did things separately now and then". i want to cry.

Remember that works both ways ----->hen night GET DOWN THERE AND BOOGIE GIRL!!! :heehaw:

Quote from: Cornholioi have the monday blues too. madrocker has gone to the pub without me because apparently we "spend too much time together and it would be healthy if we did things separately now and then". i want to cry.

I sense a domestic brewing on the forums.

what gets me is that he comes in from work and goes straight onto the computer and i dont see him then til we go to bed unless i go and talk to him. we might be under the same roof but we hardly spend any time actually together.

/grabs some popcorn from Chris H

/watches in interest for follow up action :)

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ive cheered up a little as ive just found a can of strongbow. but my mood is still crap.

Quote from: Cornholioive cheered up a little as ive just found a can of strongbow. but my mood is still crap.

Helps for the moment I guess.

Have you seen a flick called "Life in the..Metro" a Bollywood production I think http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0800956/
saw it yesterday and quite liked it, see if you can download it.

i would but im in the middle of seriously updating my media player. i have some rammstein and eagles of death metal tracks on the d/l atm and theyre taking forever.

Quote from: Cornholiowhat gets me is that he comes in from work and goes straight onto the computer and i dont see him then til we go to bed unless i go and talk to him. we might be under the same roof but we hardly spend any time actually together.

thats quite similar to how it went for me and my gf.

we both get in from work together, i would go straight on the pc and she would make tea.

Other than eating together and popping downstairs to see her every now and again, i wouldnt see her till we went to bed.

now weve started going for walks after tea or going to the park with a ball or somthing or even just a random drive, also I use the laptop now, so even tho im still on the pc im on the sofa next to her.

you do need time to yourself tho, i go to football and pub with mates and she goes swimming with her sis and fat fighters with some mates.

Quote from: DEViANCEyou do need time to yourself tho,

tbh all i seem to have is time to myself.

Quotetbh all i seem to have is time to myself.

get a job.

Quote from: Chuck Norris

Quotetbh all i seem to have is time to myself.

get a job.

hahaha. i wish i had time to moan.

well, when dave got back from the pub last night we had a very long talk. he wants to split up with me. why? because hes scared of growing up and being in a relationship. he wants to be a boy again because he thinks hes missing out. thing is, i dont want to lose him. weve been together for nearly 5 years, got engaged and as well as being my boyfriend hes my best friend, and i cant give up on that so easily.

Quote from: Cornholiowell, when dave got back from the pub last night we had a very long talk. he wants to split up with me. why? because hes scared of growing up and being in a relationship. he wants to be a boy again because he thinks hes missing out. thing is, i dont want to lose him. weve been together for nearly 5 years, got engaged and as well as being my boyfriend hes my best friend, and i cant give up on that so easily.

are you 30 yet?

well, its hard to decide when you are ready for a life long commitment, if you dont feel comfortable with it, then you cant really force a person into the situation. its better now than when you have kids/morgage. who knows you could find someone better suited to you, you never know untill you go and find out.

yes but my point is its a bit f***ing late to get scared of commitment now. if he didnt want this he could have told me years ago.

there is a big difference between seeing someone, an then getting married. big big big big difference.

Quote from: Cornholioi have the monday blues too. madrocker has gone to the pub without me because apparently we "spend too much time together and it would be healthy if we did things separately now and then". i want to cry.

You do sound a bit possessive, from the many "desperate" sounding posts.  Doesnt he frequent these forums too?!?  

Rather than spend loads of time bitching about him on here, why not start going out with the girls a bit more often and get some interests.  Or better still talk to him!!

Quote from: Cornholioi have the monday blues too. madrocker has gone to the pub without me because apparently we "spend too much time together and it would be healthy if we did things separately now and then". i want to cry.

You do sound a bit possessive, from the many "desperate" sounding posts.  Doesnt he frequent these forums too?!?  

Rather than spend loads of time bitching about him on here, why not start going out with the girls a bit more often and get some interests.  Or better still talk to him!!

Bizarre, added my reply in twice?!?

Quote from: DEViANCEand fat fighters with some mates.

ALERT - ALERT - ALERT - ALERT - ALERT - ALERT

C H U B B Y  -  C H A S E R ! ! ! !

ALERT - ALERT - ALERT - ALERT - ALERT - ALERT


(only joking my mrs, goes to some slimming thing too ... good thing us blokes have bodies that never get fat!  ;) )

Quote from: Cornholiowhat gets me is that he comes in from work and goes straight onto the computer and i dont see him then til we go to bed unless i go and talk to him. we might be under the same roof but we hardly spend any time actually together.

thats exactly the behaviour that saw me lose my ex 9 or 10 months ago. I still regret it now.

If hes anything like I was back then, hes probably more scared of losing you that hell care to admit. However what hes not realising is that you guys used to have fun together but youve forgotten how to do that. if you two can remember how to have fun, he wont associate fun as drinking with his single mates.

this isnt some self righteous post telling you how to fix it, if Id have had the answers I wouldnt have lost the girl i wanted to marry. I just hope he gives it chance to work and tries to fix it with you before giving it up and regretting it.

Matt

Quote from: Cornholioi have the monday blues too. madrocker has gone to the pub without me because apparently we "spend too much time together and it would be healthy if we did things separately now and then". i want to cry.

Oi. this is my self-pity thread, get your own :p Srlsy, you should be having this chat with Mr. Rocker rather than with the whole internet.

well, im officially single. im sorry for stealing your thunder sdp!! im feeling pretty bad right now but ill be fine soon.

All the best Cornholio, hope you feel ok soon!

Quote from: Cornholiowell, im officially single. im sorry for stealing your thunder sdp!! im feeling pretty bad right now but ill be fine soon.

If you are still living in the same house stop making his meals for him, he can get those himself. Or starve.

If you are in a partnership then it takes both to make it a success, one person cant slog it out on their own and you are better off out of it.

And remember that there are still people who appreciate your presence here ;)

i wont be staying here with him. im moving into my grandmas for a couple of weeks then im going up to scotland to my mums for a week to clear my head. so i might not be online for a little while.

Well shes gone now, feel realy sh*tty, very worryed about her.
Just one of them bloody hard decisions that has to be made.

if it aint right it aint right, cant keep a relationship going just because you dont want to upset people

^^^ he knows the score

well that was a bit of a faux pais there

did she keep the engagement ring?

well.

Quote from: Edd^^^ he knows the score

Loads of marriages break down because one partner loves their PCs more, others because they dont communicate at all. I admit Ive done the second, but not the first.

Quote from: MadrockerWell shes gone now, feel realy sh*tty, very worryed about her.
Just one of them bloody hard decisions that has to be made.

You have to decide if the relationship was worth it, and if you can try to put it right. That might be impossible. It is your call though.

If you love something let it go. If it comes back, run faster.

Hope things work out for ya both.

Quote from: MadrockerWell shes gone now, feel realy sh*tty, very worryed about her.
Just one of them bloody hard decisions that has to be made.

come to france and get bollocksed on chouffe a la paniche!

whoa! its a f**king boat pub

Quote from: funkychicken9000if it aint right it aint right, cant keep a relationship going just because you dont want to upset people

thats what Ive been telling myself for months. was just so scared of upsetting her.
I dont like hurting other people, especially gayle.

wtf why are you quoting me??

i didnt mention marriages and dont care about them breaking down

Quote from: Eddwtf why are you quoting me??

i didnt mention marriages and dont care about them breaking down

lol, I didnt quite get it ether.

must be senility ;)

Rofl. :mutley:

I like Mondays. Its the start of a new week with new opportunities.

I like Fridays as you can think, hell Ive achieved tons this week.

I am a true optimistic :D

Quote from: mr_rollI like Mondays. Its the start of a new week with new opportunities.

I like Fridays as you can think, hell Ive achieved tons this week.

I am a true optimistic :D

God I hate you happy bastards! :D

there is one good thing about a Monday

its a whole week until you have to have another one.

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Quote from: mr_rollI like Mondays. Its the start of a new week with new opportunities.

I like Fridays as you can think, hell Ive achieved tons this week.

I am a true optimistic :D

God I hate you happy bastards! :D

Im with Marvin, be as depressed as possible about things, then if anything at all less than a total disaster happens you can look on it positively  :mrgreen:

I dont work so weekdays are just the same as Saturday and Sunday to me.

If you find someone you love, hold onto them, thats all I can say. :)
Breaking up with someone just because you both spend too much time on the computer instead of time together is just really sad.

Quote from: Chuck Norrisdid she keep the engagement ring?

yes i kept the ring. its mine, im not giving it back.

LOL. when I split with Sarah I told her to keep it. It is yours after all, you cant take back gifts just because you split up. IMO.

too right!!

sod that!! Ive told Ffion I want the ring back if/when we split up!!  :D

if i were her id tell you to sod off. at the end of the day, you bought it for her, therefore its hers.

lol naah.. he bought it for a fiance. She would then not be a fiance anymore. Cough up the ring... :)

Its not exactly like you can go and give it someone else, at best you could probably fetch back half its value. No one wants a used engagement ring (unless of course it holds sentiment) which leads me onto the next point, that by the same mentality the ring should be returned when you are husband and wife, but of course that wouldnt happen.

The whole idea of rings are stupid, but if youre going to buy into it you cant throw your toys out the pram when it turns sour.

Quote from: Clockd 0NeIts not exactly like you can go and give it someone else,

Three times so far, and I still have the ring :D

Mind it was given back voluntarily, I didnt ask. As far as Im concerned the operative word is give, though if it only lasts a few weeks then it should be given back.

You shouldnt be buying an expensive ring if you dont accept that you might not get it back. For that you should avoid expensive rings anyway. Something that costs three to five hundred quid should be adequate.

Quote from: Clockd 0NeIts not exactly like you can go and give it someone else, at best you could probably fetch back half its value. No one wants a used engagement ring (unless of course it holds sentiment) which leads me onto the next point, that by the same mentality the ring should be returned when you are husband and wife, but of course that wouldnt happen.

The whole idea of rings are stupid, but if youre going to buy into it you cant throw your toys out the pram when it turns sour.

Then equally I wouldnt let someone who cheated on me, or betrayed my trust in someway to cause the break up in a relationship to keep the ring.

You could give it to someone else, crikey... the girl doesnt even need to know its second hand, failing that giving it as a gift to someone who actually means something to you would be more worthwhile.

Well if they cheated on you it is a different kettle of fish. Depends on your moral view of it I guess Rich.

Giving someone a ring of that significance for them to give it back/you take it back and then deciding "oh well itll be good enough for the next one and save me a few bob"? It wouldnt instill me with faith tbh. If I was on the receiving end and found out Id be a bit pissed off in all fairness and it makes you look tight.

Maybe your attitude will change when you meet someone you love...

What strikes me as odd, is why the woman would want to keep it.

Its an engagement ring. "nice ring" "yeah its from my... ex-fiance..?!" seems a WTF face would be suitable there.

Not tight at all, but if you split up with someone im sorry but I wouldnt keep anything given to me that meant that much. Id give it back. It is meant to signify your promise to each other I guess, however right now if anything it just serves as a reminder of a failed relationship, or a broken engagement.

Id prefer to give the ring, and to have the ring given back. If I choose to pawn it, or give it to a mate for a birthday gift or something, its down to my choice. I gave it to a girl on a conditional agreement... "You are my fiance" I wouldnt have given it to her if she said No... so why the hell does she get to keep it when she says no a few months down the line.

You have the ring if you say yes. If you end up saying no... then you give it back. Fairly easy to see that.

As for the last line, It wont, as I already have done.

I guess we both have different ideas on what the overall sentiment and significance of the ring is then  :)

Quote from: M3ta7h3adWhat strikes me as odd, is why the woman would want to keep it.

Its an engagement ring. "nice ring" "yeah its from my... ex-fiance..?!" seems a WTF face would be suitable there.

Not tight at all, but if you split up with someone im sorry but I wouldnt keep anything given to me that meant that much. Id give it back. It is meant to signify your promise to each other I guess, however right now if anything it just serves as a reminder of a failed relationship, or a broken engagement.

Id prefer to give the ring, and to have the ring given back. If I choose to pawn it, or give it to a mate for a birthday gift or something, its down to my choice. I gave it to a girl on a conditional agreement... "You are my fiance" I wouldnt have given it to her if she said No... so why the hell does she get to keep it when she says no a few months down the line.

You have the ring if you say yes. If you end up saying no... then you give it back. Fairly easy to see that.

As for the last line, It wont, as I already have done.

Why do you want it back? give it to the next one like me? :mrgreen:  Item is you gave her the ring, no statement on getting it back. How she disposes of it is her choice. Sell, give it away, keep it or give it back.

Its her choice in UK law too, you cant enforce the return, unless there is prior agreement, although in some other countries you can.

If you want the ring back then state its a conditional gift, otherwise its hers.

im not talking legally here. im talking about what I would like.

I gave it to her to signify our promise to each other to get married in future. If it was just a ring I gave to her as a gift... sure keep it.

But if at the end of the day the "promise" is recinded, then the ring doesnt belong to her at least those are my feelings. The "ring" being any ring in future, or the current one, belongs to my fiance. Not an ex.

Think of the "ring" as a non-specific entity.

The ring that you bought for Girl A... that your no longer seeing Girl A... you get back. You flog for the cash.

You buy a different ring later, and give it to new Girl B. Girl B ends up marrying you. You effectively have only 1 engagement ring in circulation.

Thats the best way I can explain it.

Im not engaged to Girl A, so why should she have a symbol saying that I am...

So who actually broke it off? If the woman does then perhaps she should give it back. If the bloke did then she shouldnt.

In the end its a bit of jewellery, if she gave it back you sold it, bought something else and gave that to woman 2 you would still have two rings in circulation although one now belongs to someone else. Effectively you are using the same money to buy the second ring so it is the same ring.

Quote from: SeriousSo who actually broke it off? If the woman does then perhaps she should give it back. If the bloke did then she shouldnt.

In the end its a bit of jewellery, if she gave it back you sold it, bought something else and gave that to woman 2 you would still have two rings in circulation although one now belongs to someone else. Effectively you are using the same money to buy the second ring so it is the same ring.

No cause Id use the money from the first ring to go out and get hammered :D the money would be long gone, its not like Id be working a chain of women. :D

I have to be at the bloody hospital for 7:45 for an operation that is meant to be 8am but will probably be later knowing the nhs at the moment on a monday morning, joy, and I scraped being well enough as I not been to well but being in bed all day yesterday has helped