There isnt an issue if you personally dont enjoy train travel - but thats no basis to argue that it isnt safe.

Aye, but your forgetting your metal box does 110mph if you want it to, typically does 70mph, or a little over at times.

And your relying on not just your maintenance, but the maintenance of every car around you, and the common sense as well as the observation of everyone around you.

A train, does 125mph... but its an isolated metal box with nothing else around it, the only thing that causes accidents are either human error (just as serious on a motorway), or a sudden obstruction of the line (again, just as serious on the motorway). You dont get driving miss daisy pulling out on you at 70mph and slamming the brakes on because she dropped her phone and took her eyes off of the road.

Im just not seeing why your nervous about train travel, yet like driving a car. You more than any other person I know has the worse luck with cars, surely you understand the ease at which a cock up can quickly turn deadly?

Aye, but your forgetting your metal box does 110mph if you want it to, typically does 70mph, or a little over at times.

forget that, the speed doesnt matter.  I live in Preston, right on the West Coast line.  I can get to Windermere in under an hour (when visiting my grandmother) by car.  It normally takes just under 2 by train.  The National express bus takes only a little longer than the train.  If i need to go to carlisle to visit other relatives I get in the car and drive, the train takes longer (Proven twice when I picked up my sister from the station for a giggle).  Manchester is quicker by train, but Liverpool is quicker by car.  Forget Blackburn as well, its all of 12 miles away and i had to catch the train a while back to get there (RAC dumped the car in the wrong place).  just over 45 minutes to get there, took me 30 to get back.
Why always use a form of transport that doesnt always suit?  I do use the train for some things, but a lot of the time a car is simply quicker, and i want to have the optionto choose, not have some politician in his rather expensive, gas guzzling limo telling me that im not good enough to use the roads when he might be on them.