well the end of the academic year is drawing to a close. my threshhold to take s**t is about to be breached.
I have a housemate who consistantly takes the piss, is rude, aggressive and domineering. now Ive managed to put up with this most of the year, but now its got to a point where i just want to set fire to him.
to set the scene, i was in bed yesturday night, sleeping. an he comes in very drunk, an proceeds to throw most of the objects in the kitchen about. so that makes a lot of noise. then he sticks on his stero, an after repeated attempts to get him to stfu as i have a group meeting today (which i missed because of him as we couldnt sleep). he then proceeded to make several threats of bodily damage to me, an slapped me about a bit. those who know me, will pretty much know that smacking me does nothing. in fact just makes me more angry... anyway this guy has done about Ã,£400 of damage to our flat in previous attempts at attention an he wont pay for it. so its coming out of our deposits when we move. :evil:
ive started with my other flatmates to draft out a formal complaint, but i think i should do other things to him now. :twisted:
mods please edit to add other options which ill think about when and where appropriate. this f**ker has pushed the wrong button an now has to pay for using me as a doormat....
Quote from: redwell the end of the academic year is drawing to a close. my threshhold to take sh*t is about to be breached.
I have a housemate who consistantly takes the piss, is rude, aggressive and domineering. now Ive managed to put up with this most of the year, but now its got to a point where i just want to set fire to him.
to set the scene, i was in bed yesturday night, sleeping. an he comes in very drunk, an proceeds to throw most of the objects in the kitchen about. so that makes a lot of noise. then he sticks on his stero, an after repeated attempts to get him to stfu as i have a group meeting today (which i missed because of him as we couldnt sleep). he then proceeded to make several threats of bodily damage to me, an slapped me about a bit. those who know me, will pretty much know that smacking me does nothing. in fact just makes me more angry... anyway this guy has done about Ã,£400 of damage to our flat in previous attempts at attention an he wont pay for it. so its coming out of our deposits when we move. :evil:
ive started with my other flatmates to draft out a formal complaint, but i think i should do other things to him now. :twisted:
mods please edit to add other options which ill think about when and where appropriate. this f**ker has pushed the wrong button an now has to pay for using me as a doormat....
Thats bad :shock:
no respect for others, he deserves a kickin. Maybe worse.
Stand up to him and if it goes off, make sure you hurt him before he kicks the living crap out of you.
One good punch from you will far out weigh the beating you receive.
Alternatively and more sensibly; the next time he threatens / physically abuses you, call the police in. Then press charges through them.
Finally, talk to your landlord and explain the situation.
Some evil ideas...the guy sounds like a real hetro testerone tanked up guy - so hit him were it hurts, his image....dye all this white clothes pink. sign him up for gay porn using his uni email address. take back off his TV or HiFi and place a kipper in there and seal it up.
Smack him all over to be honest. Once youve done that he will try to get you back, smack him some more until he quits, then replace all teabags with laxative ones and watch the choas unfold ;)
File a formal assault charge and restraining order which will force him to move out.
Ive had roomies like that before. Ones who were so macho that they couldnt be arsed to pick up after themselves, left rotten food about, and made noise at 4am. If the contract was in my name, Id set their stuff out on the stoop, and change the locks. When they started banging on the door, Id call the cops.
You sleep in the bed you make.
simple - you speak to landlord and tell him what damage the individual caused. The landlord will then remove that money from his deposit directly (and then only remainder spread amongst rest of you).
You leave it and move on and take it as a lesson everyone learns when theyre at uni. Hes not obliged to be nice to you or turn down his music if hes drunk. He just sounds like an asshole for not doing it but he doesnt have to. Just suck it up and just remember him as a twat.
Trying to do something back to him is a bit childish and if youre old enough to live in the real world you have to occasionally just put up with stuff like this.
Option 3 - Two tablespoons, along with some water (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Syrup_of_ipecac)... :twisted:
May want to make sure hes outside though, as the vomiting can last up to half and hour...:shock:
To be honest though, I agree with steve. :P
Quote from: SteveFsimple - you speak to landlord and tell him what damage the individual caused. The landlord will then remove that money from his deposit directly (and then only remainder spread amongst rest of you).
You leave it and move on and take it as a lesson everyone learns when theyre at uni. Hes not obliged to be nice to you or turn down his music if hes drunk. He just sounds like an asshole for not doing it but he doesnt have to. Just suck it up and just remember him as a twat.
Trying to do something back to him is a bit childish and if youre old enough to live in the real world you have to occasionally just put up with stuff like this.
No one should have to put up with intimidation and threats, let alone the obnoxious behaviour. Real world or not, some people just deserve a good hiding physically or mentally to instill some respect for others they obviously failed to take on board as a child. This guy does sound like a ripe candidate too.
Max presents the best option here IMO. Totally non-confrontational and it would prove an almost instant resolution to the problem.
Poisoning him will only get you into real trouble. If he is violent to you then you have the right to defend yourself.
I would get him thrown out the property legally and not let him back in. as maxi and clockd say
^^^ what Steve said.
if you and your other flatmates are all together on it itll have much more in pact with the land lord too.
tbh in situations like this when theres a group of you you can all collectively ignore someone and it should make them buck up there ideas.... tho if hes been **** all his life, then itll probably just make him worse :(
edit/p.s. its not your job to take over where his parents failed ;)
Its a university managed hall iirc. There is no land lord, would have to complain to estates or whoever it is in charge.
I would put in a formal complaint as a group to the relevant person and consider filing a report against him for his threataning behaivour.
Quote from: Clockd 0NeNo one should have to put up with intimidation and threats, let alone the obnoxious behaviour. Real world or not, some people just deserve a good hiding physically or mentally to instill some respect for others they obviously failed to take on board as a child. This guy does sound like a ripe candidate too.
I would agree with you however I think you can just about read through the lines here...
This guys a tit, fair enough. Hes been out revelling and comes home sh*t faced. Hes making a lot of noise (as we all have done after a heavy night out) and doesnt give a damn about his flatmates so puts his music on.
Then he suddenly gets confronted by housemates bitching at him. Id also hazard a guess that they let him play it for a bit getting more and more wound up before eventually going down and not asking that politely that he turn it down because they need sleep. Being drunk and an asshole he thinks sod them and keeps playing it.
Then red keeps getting bolchy about things and the lad tells him to f*** off or hell cave his head in. <-- threat on life? maybe...
Sure this is all speculation but tbh if the guy had actually knocked the piss out of red then hed be doing more than asking this on a forum and his complaint would be the guy hit him not that theres Ã,£400 of damages to the flat. By his post I suspect the threat was just that - a drunken bugger off and leave me alone... Theres a difference. If it is just that then the guy is just an inconsiderate idiot but theyre not that uncommon.
True, but as you can see this isnt the first time. The guy has obviously behaved like this before and has caused Ã,£400 of damage.
Obviously a total twat IMO. You can forgive people going out on the lash and making noise when they come home, this guy seems to like to stir it up from the sounds of things.
^yup :(
no i know when someone was trying to get rid of me, this guy was having a go at me for not cleaning up after him.
im usually a passive guy, i dont care if i get beaten up. in the end i will win because im not a sh*t.
i did show a lot of self control because i would have hit him. because he did hit me, however i have started the official complaints process, plus i know he owes rent etc.. an other people have complained so hopefully he will be kicked out.
on the plus side i went to view an absolutly spanking house today....
Ya doin the right thing, there is always one asshole in the first year that spoils it for someone but unfortunately you happen to be on the receiving end of it. It will get better Ive certainly learnt that after last year lol but im sure Nige would have plenty to say on that lol.
what nige lives with an asshole??? thats a not a very nice thing to say about sam :P
im drafting the letter now :)
Nah, she lives in a house of selfish and disgusting slobs. Poor excuses for womanhood. :disappointed:
Her new housemates are a good bunch, thankfully.
Quote from: redon the plus side i went to view an absolutly spanking house today....
Thats the key - move on to somewhere nice and find decent people. Theres plenty of those around too :)
you havent heard the half of it mate :D
my student digs sofar have been FAR from rough :)
but she likes it RAWR etc..... lol
take him to the small claims court to get your deposit back - make sure you do it when he is home this summer and so use his parents address :twisted: - youll probably find that they wont fancy getting refused credit for the next few years and hell end up paying you lot back & get a bollocking by mummy and daddy.