1) Dont put women up on a pedestal. They just women.

2) Dont hit on her while shes working. Itll be awkward, lunchtime is best.

3) "Alright?" is your no.1 chat-up line in this situation. Catch her when shes walking past. Big goofy smile, "alright?"

4) Dont stare at her or anything, but do the eye-contact thing if you make eye contact after youve spoke to her.

5) Quick common ground. "God I hate/love that [thing about work/boss]."

all good points, id say going from a book isnt the best idea handy tips in it im sure but itd seem too scripted.

the book is a good read. the game by neil strauss.

however some of the techniques in it are played out, but it does give you the insight into ugly blokes picking up beautiful women which is when you realise the key difference between women and men. men fall in love with curves and women fall in love with minds. sweeping generalisation but you get the point.

i once tried walking up to two girls and asking them if my mate was right to split up with his ex cos she got off with a girl, which is strt outta the book. they saw through it but we chatted to them for ages. that was a big turning point for me. ive never been able to chat to girls, but that night i realised i could chat to any girl.

certain things work. Ive found the following has really helped interactions with female friends as well as girls i want to get thru.

give em some stick. most women want to be liked, dont mind a bit of banter and will give it back. if a girl gives you stick back, she likes you. i dont mean raw abuse, but if she calls you a dumbass with a mischevious grin on her face youre in.

talk to their friends. the sort of women theyre after in the book are the sort who are keen to be the centre of attention. when you turn back to talk to them, shell talk back to you. youll also get encouraging smiles form her friends if you engaged them all and didnt make it blindly obvious. if youre lucky, theyll leave you to it.

the stuff about touching is right, but the high five is so american girls over here will spot you a mile off. punch her playfully on the arm. if you get one back its on like donkey kong.

im sure the lasses on here are cringing because of the nature of this thread. sorry, but some of us need a little help. and in the words of the cribs, girls like mystery.

Matt

The ugly/fat one will be flattered and youll get Nice Bloke status.

You can end up with the hippo clinging to you though and acting as a blocker.

lots of good points there.... not much to add to that,,, but im going to come in at a different angle...

if youre new to chatting up girls like this then you need to talk to her quick while shes still new and before you decide youre in love with her. (maybe that sounda  abit harsh... but you know what I mean!)

and... you work with her, so you have a million and one reasons to talk to her...

you work with her... so youre not going to chat her up one day and have her in bed that night... if I were in youre situation Id try to talk to her and get to know her for a week before I asked her out....

plus if shes new to youre team etc.. she might be a bit nervous...

and lastly... the thing with chat up lines is... any bollocks will do.... if she likes you then she likes you, if not then youre wasting youre time anyway...

the last chat up line I used was "do you like my socks"..."theyve got red bits".... "theyre really cool"..."I got them from asda"...

(Id had a lot to drink)

...but it worked

the book is a good read. the game by neil strauss.

"the game" isnt a pick up guide per say - it is an account by a rolling stone journalist of his time amongst a group of pickup artists from an online community. Tis quite a good read IMO and the stuff they get up to is impressive.

There you go, of the 3 people whove read the book you have 3 recommendations.  And frankly none of the 3 people listed seem to have a lack of confidence or obvious probs with women.

Seriously, it seems weird but its very worth a read.  Its not about picking up women - although thats one of the uses of course.  Its purely about psychology and chatting to people be it man, woman, taxi driver, whatever.  The point is its about how to engage people in conversation.  Its a real skill and the books are definitely worth a read.  I got given it by a girl I know who loved it a couple of years back for my birthday and have passed it around guys and girls I know and most have found it interesting/useful.  The books in general boil down to one simple thing.

You need to go out and talk to people and just put yourself in the spot.


Theres nothing more to it than that but reading the book just drives the point home.  Theres not many books Id strongly recommend but the game would be one of them as it tells you a hell of a lot about the way peoples minds work and is funny as hell.

It sounds dumb but seriously - go read it.


As Dave says I wouldnt recommend using any of it on the girl at work.  Itll tell you how to talk to people in general which will build your natural skill at it and then youll just end up talking to the girl at work or anyone else without even thinking twice.  Its not about the girl - its about being able to comfortably talk to anyone regardless of the end goal.

try and catch her at the coffee machine or whatever, offer to buy her one, then slip some rohypnol in, bish bash bosh, job done, lets face it thats the only way youre gonna get her