they should ask first, if they ask, youd be a dick to say no tbh.

one of my mates is seeing my first love/serious relationship. I aint bothered tbh, dont see them much like.

I bet I never see Andy again.

The soulmates thing was just me taking the idea to an extreme, the main point being you cant get all possessive about people; which is effectively how you are coming across Steve, as being possessive of the person and wanting to dictate who they can and cannot see once youre done with them.

Yes there has to be a level of respect and they should ask you first, leave a grace period, etc.

But mates or not, who other people see once your relationship is over fully really isnt your own business to be honest. Yeah it might hurt/suck or make you somewhat envious but thats tough luck. Other people have just as much right to make their own happiness and you should move on too.

For the record, no Ive never done such a thing, but Id be happy to see a good friend date one of my exes.


Good point made by Egg though, just because they are seeing each other it doesnt mean you have to be their crutch, so look out for yourself.

Yep, dont believe I dont understand your reasoning though

But seriously, reread a couple of your posts back a page, you get quite heated and it almost sounds as though you have been stung before, which is the only reason I can assume you are so passionate about the issue (other than what youve mentioned about experiences with your own circle of friends).

Yep, dont believe I dont understand your reasoning though

But seriously, reread a couple of your posts back a page, you get quite heated and it almost sounds as though you have been stung before, which is the only reason I can assume you are so passionate about the issue (other than what youve mentioned about experiences with your own circle of friends).

would you date a brothers ex?

The heart wants what it wants, Im afraid if someone has feelings for someone even if it was your brother who was interested in your ex its wrong of you to expect them to simply turn it off and pretend they dont care.

so you would just go ahead without mentioning it beforehand?

what a bunch of ruthless backstabbing bastards on this board  

I think thats a pretty selfish viewpoint tbh...

in 10 years time they could be married with 2 kids and have an awsome life.... what sort of friend am I if I hold  a mate back from that ?

(tho this is on an ask first basis!)

agreed... if im on good terms with the girl, and the bloke, ask first should be done

He didnt ask  me, so I was not able to tell him my intentions.